Thursday, February 28, 2013
Today is an exercise in narrowing our focus to this pesky thing called self-talk. If you've ever wondered why your mood suddenly goes from completely fine to completely losing it, self-talk usually has a lot to do with it. It seems obvious, I know, but it is one of those things that is so obvious that we often find ourselves ignoring it. Unhelpful self-talk may sound something like this.
Bob says to Kelly, "I'm enjoying this lazy day." Kelly has been battling getting out of bed all morning, telling herself she should probably do something with her day off instead of staying in bed with Bob. This comment from Bob makes her think <em>he thinks I'm lazy and fat. He thinks I should do something. Of course he does!</em>
Yes it is ridiculous and a little extreme to go to such lengths to degrade oneself, but we often don't realize we do it. Self-talk also takes away from one's ability to imagine by keeping us grounded in our real-world thoughts and anxieties. Losing yourself to the imagination is difficult to do unless you know yourself. Today, keep an eye on your self-talk. Maybe convince yourself you are awesome. If you already know you are awesome then keep it up.By way of relating this to something more fantastic, imagine a self-talk situation in which you realize that you or your character have obtained the power to conjure balls of fire! What would that self-talk sound like? Or perhaps you've just found out that you are the king's son/daughter and the fate of the world rests in your hands after his death. Something less cliche? Maybe you have discovered you are a creature from an ancient myth and your saliva is made of burning acid. Whatever you daydream today, do away with that meddlesome self-talk and turn it into something awesome. Leave Kelly to her anxieties.